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Develop a Healthy Mindset.....
Most people perceive they have issues that need
fixing in some way in order to be successful or to be loved and appreciated for
who they are. If you are one of the many striving for 'perfection' with
unrealistic expectations you may experience moments of anger, frustration, even
anxiousness and periods of sadness. Ask yourself the following questions to
find out if you have a balanced, healthy mindset geared for your greater self-worth.
If you answer no to 3 or more of these questions you might consider finding a
way to shift any 'no' to 'yes' to boost your sense of self-worth and
self-appreciation:
Do you know what is really important to you
and how to fill your life with actions that inspire you?
Do you understand what drives you and why
and how that impacts everything you do?
Are you living a life free of shame, guilt
and regret?
Are you doing what you love and loving what
you do?
Do you know how to manage your emotions so
that they do not control you or impact your daily life and relationships?
Do you feel everyday that you are worthy and loveable?
Do you see how all your previous challenges
and self-labels have served you and your life?
Work with a Business and Life Management Coach
to assist you in understanding yourself, what makes you who you are and what
drives you. Learn the mechanisms of perceptions and how to
dissolve the emotions standing in the way of you being grateful for you, your life
and your experiences. You can manage and turn challenge to opportunity by
focusing on your true power and potential. Book a complimentary session at http://www.denisedema.com to get started
today!
Define Your Purpose!
Your mental attitude gives power to everything you do. Once you have a definiteness of purpose you will know where you are going and how you are going to get there. You must create a path to attain your goals. The plan can change along the way but the incremental steps taken will guide you toward accomplishing the things that are important in your life. Attainment is dependent on having clarity of your purpose!
If this thought is overwhelming for you and you don't know where to begin, start on a small scale by thinking just about this very day before you. What is your purpose today? Do you have a definite direction toward that purpose, a plan of action steps to get you to achieve what is necessary to make your day productive? Without one, you most likely will end the day wondering where the time went, why nothing got done or why all the things on your mind never developed into anything accomplished or completed. A clear sense of purpose can transform obstacles into opportunities, frustration into determination, and defeat into victory.
Once you develop a daily habit of living your life with purpose you will start to feel a great sense of accomplishment and direction. It will give you the confidence to move forward with the same clarity to then attain your long term goals. The next step will be yours to take!
You can get the tools you need to excel in your life by working with a Business and Life Management Coach who has over 20 years’ experience empowering individuals, executives and business owners to attain self-defined success in their professional & personal lives. Book a complimentary session at http://www.denisedema.com to get started in reaching your personal and professional goals today! National phone, e-mail and local on-site coaching available.
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Seek First to Understand and Then Be Understood!
Have you ever been with a family member, friend, business college or an acquaintance that has very strong opinions where you clearly disagree about something? You probably go around in circles until you think this will be the last time that you will disagree with that person because clearly they do not understand your perspective. Often times the conversation escalates to the point where one person isn’t listening anymore but yelling to get their point across. Then all communication breaks down at that point and different perspectives are no longer discussed.
So try to think about this
for a minute. Just because you are never going to agree, because you have different opinions, does not
mean you “should” agree. It’s not about being right or wrong but about being
aware and respectful of our differences. Communication in a respectful, calm
way is the beginning to understanding others and being understood.
Is it realistic to expect
other people to understand us when we are not willing to listen or understand
another’s perspective?” Imagine what our world would be like if we first
started our conversations based on understanding. The quote “Seek to understand
and then be understood” is relevant now more than ever. There are so many
fascinating ways that people live their lives from what people wear to their
political philosophy to how they choose to enjoy their lives. By choosing to understand, we can create
conversations that are based on acceptance of our differences as opposed to
allowing those differences to make us angry and fearful of each other.
“Everything that irritates us
about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ― C.G. Jung
What about this: “You believe
what you believe. I believe what I believe. And that’s alright. ” I believe
that just because someone has a different perspective from us it doesn’t mean
that we cannot try to understand where the other person is coming from. With so
many people, cultures, perspectives floating around how can we all have the
same opinions? If we did it would make the world pretty boring. So we can all
agree to disagree but still seek to understand in a respectful way.
The key to this concept of
agreeing to disagree is honest communication. I think that it is important to
ask the other person why they feel the way they do. While you may not be able
to change the other person’s perspective, you will be able to open your mind
and understand it. Respect not only applies to people but also to beliefs. By
agreeing to disagree we can respect other people’s beliefs without necessarily
calling them our own.
I think that “difference” is
an amazing thing and choosing to understand them can truly allow us to grow as
individuals. Difference can expand our perception of what is possible. Understanding is a mindset, it is a choice
that can be challenging at times but it allows us to learn more and grow by
creating more connections. Building connections helps us learn more about the
world we live in. You never know what you may
learn if you open your mind……………
“Only the development of
compassion and understanding for others can bring us the tranquility and
happiness we all seek.” ― Dalai Lama XIV
Get the tools you need to
excel in your life by working with a Business and Life Management Coach who has
over 20 years’ experience empowering individuals, executives and business
owners to attain self-defined success in their professional & personal
lives. Denise Dema’s passion for personal development is at the core of her
business and life philosophy and is committed to helping others achieve their
full potential in order to live richer, more fulfilling lives. Book a
complimentary session at http://www.denisedema.com
to get started in reaching your goals
today! On-site, phone and e-mail coaching available.
Developing Resilience
The importance of being a resilient person plays a hand in everything you do. Even if you're not a naturally resilient person, you can learn to develop a resilient mindset and attitude to improve your life. Start focusing on incorporating the following into your daily life.
1. Get enough sleep and exercise, and learn to manage stress. When you take care of your mind and body, you're better able to cope effectively with challenges in your life.
2. Practice thought awareness. Resilient people don't let negative thoughts derail their efforts. Instead, they consistently practice positive thinking. Also, "listen" to how you talk to yourself when something goes wrong - if you find yourself making statements that are permanent, pervasive or personalized, correct these thoughts in your mind.
3. Restructure the way that you think about negative situations and bad events. This will help turn your mood around, so that you can approach situations in a positive frame of mind.
4. Learn from your mistakes and failures. Every mistake has the power to teach you something important; so don't stop searching until you've found the lesson in every situation. Also, make sure that you understand the idea of "post-traumatic growth" - there can be real truth in the saying that "if it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger."
5. Choose your response. Remember, we all experience bad days and we all go through our share of crises. But we have a choice in how we respond; we can choose to react negatively or in a panic, or we can choose to remain calm and logical to find a solution. Your reaction is always up to you and it will determine how others respond to you as well.
6. Maintain perspective. Resilient people understand that, although a situation or crisis may seem overwhelming in the moment, it may not make that much of an impact over the long-term. Try to avoid blowing events out of proportion.
7. If you don't already, learn to set SMART, effective personal goals – it's incredibly important to set and achieve goals, and to learn from your experiences.
8. Build your self confidence. Remember, resilient people are confident that they're going to succeed eventually, despite the setbacks or stresses that they might be facing. This belief in themselves also enables them to take risks: when you develop confidence and a strong sense of self, you have the strength to keep moving forward, and to take the risks you need to get ahead.
9. Develop strong relationships with your colleagues. People who have strong connections at work are more resistant to stress, and they're happier in their role. This also goes for your personal life: the more real friendships you develop, the more resilient you're going to be, because you have a strong support network to fall back on. (Remember that treating people with compassion and empathy is very important here.)
10. Focus on being flexible. Resilient people understand that things change, and that carefully-made plans may, occasionally, need to be amended or scrapped.
Remember......
You can develop resilience in several ways. First, take care to exercise regularly and get enough sleep, so that you can control stress more easily. The stronger you feel physically and emotionally, the easier it is for you to overcome challenges.
Focus on thinking positively, and try to learn from the mistakes you make. Build strong relationships with colleagues and friends, so that you have a support network to fall back on. Also, set specific and achievable personal goals, and work on building your self-confidence.
Achieve your full potential and work with a Business and Life Management Coach who has over 20 year’s experience empowering individuals, executives and business owners to attain self-defined success in their professional and personal lives. Book a complimentary session at http://www.denisedema.com to get the tools you need to excel in life.
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