Bullying isn't confined to childhood, it also happens
in the workplace. The bully might have left the playground and moved to the
cubicle next door. Many of the behaviors
resemble school-yard battles of old, but the stakes are much higher such as
your health, well-being and employment status. There is no playground monitor
to intervene.
However, employees, companies, researchers and even
legislative bodies are becoming aware that this part of the culture of work
that needs to change. There is increasing evidence to support that it's bad for
your emotional and physical health, that certain factors breed it and that it
CAN be deterred. But in order to stop the behavior, we first need to define it.
There are many different names for a relatively wide range
of behaviors like incivility, verbal abuse, psychological aggression, mobbing
to name a few.
Incivility is “low intensity, deviant behavior. It
violates the norms of respect however; some bullying includes intent to harm,
whereas incivility consists of merely discourteous behavior. Bullying has been
defined as; repeated, health-harming mistreatment of an employee by one or more
persons, manifested in one or more ways: verbal abuse, threatening and
intimidating conduct (verbal or nonverbal, nonphysical) that interferes with
work and undermines legitimate business interests.
Bullying is as much about what people don't do, such as
excluding people from meetings, withholding information or leaving them off an
important e-mail, as what they do, such as yelling, name-calling, making
threatening statements, micromanaging or undermining somebody's reputation.
Intent isn't necessary because sometimes bullies don't realize they are
bullies, but the behavior is still harmful.
Even if the victims don't recognize that they are being bullied, their
mental health is still affected. A
defining feature of bullying is negative behavior that people feel unable to
defend against or control.
Some of the key components of bullying include
behaviors that are: Verbal and nonverbal (excluding physical contact),
repetitive or patterned, unwelcome and unsolicited, violate appropriate conduct
toward others, harmful or cause psychological or physical injury, intended to
harm. A real concern is that because bullying is so common, many people don't
realize its harmful effects. Yelling and verbal abuse may be written off as
tough-if unpleasant-management. Micromanaging may appear to others as an
employee failing to meet expectations. And ostracism may seem like personality
conflict.
Targets of bullying may even start to believe they are
somehow at fault. Bystanders often dismiss the behavior or don't want-or
dare-to get involved. In workplaces that allow bullying behavior to go on,
management is unlikely to intervene. In many cases, employees are told to work
it out for themselves which never really puts the issue to rest.
Targets often may be encouraged to think that the
bullying is all "in your head," but the stakes are very real. Even
when the effects are not that extreme, bullying is harmful to the health and
well-being of victims, organizations and society, likening it to sexual or
racial harassment. Unlike these forms of harassment, however, general bullying
is not prohibited by law in many places.
Legal loopholes have allowed this to continue
throughout the world. The province of Quebec in Canada and some countries such
as France, Sweden and Norway have anti-psychological harassment laws, but there
are none in the United States. Even members of classes protected by Title VII
of the Civil Rights Act or by the Americans with Disabilities Act do not
usually have legal recourse against general bullying. Unless the bullying is
directly tied to a person's protected status, such as gender or race, it's not
considered discrimination and tying bullying to sexual or racial discrimination
can be very difficult.
There have been some small strides towards legislation
being passed in various U.S. states called the “Healthy Workplace Bill.” It
seeks to give severely bullied employees who have suffered concrete
psychological, physical or economic effects the right to sue the bully or the
company. Since a company would only be liable if it failed to stop the
bullying, this would give employers a legal incentive to respond to employee
abuse.
The bill would give severely bullied employees a legal
claim without opening the floodgates to frivolous lawsuits. Although the bill
is being considered in nine states-New York, Kansas, Missouri, Massachusetts,
Hawaii, Washington, Oregon, Oklahoma and California. It may be years before a
law is passed in any U.S. jurisdiction.
We're where we were with sexual harassment law 30 years
ago. The term was just beginning to be used, but people didn't think in terms
of legal protections until they understood how harmful it could be. The key is
to see bullying as a kind of human rights issue. It's about dignity at work. We
need to say that we're going to treat everyone decently. Period!
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