Let me state the obvious. Success isn’t a solo act.
Surrounding
yourself with good people and mutual supporters is essential for success. We
need the physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual support of others.
The
point is simple. The quality of your life will be in direct proportion to
the types of relationships you choose to build.
Here
are 4 that lead to success.
1.
You need models that inspire you. Models in life help you know where you
are going. When we create and build, we are better off if we use a
model—whether it’s physical or financial. It’s easier, saves time, shortens the
process, and reduces the number of mistakes.
This
is also true with “life” models. They help us learn better and at a faster pace
than if we were to take the lonely trail called originality. Find
someone who is already where you want to be — financially, spiritually,
emotionally, vocationally, relationally — and find out how they did it.
Sometimes it makes sense to take the road well- traveled.
Models
cause us to break through barriers that we thought were impassable. When Roger
Banister did the “scientifically” impossible—running the mile under four
minutes—within a year, over a dozen others accomplished the same thing. So look
at the people who are headed where you are headed and learn from them. Models
aren’t perfect, but they are inspirational.
2.
You need
coaches that propel you. A coach doesn’t do things for you. They
bring out the best in you. The best advice comes from inside you. A coach helps
you get rid of the anchors in your life that are dragging bottom so you can go
faster, further, with less fatigue. Where do you want to be at the end of the
year? Another year gone by, or the best year of your life? They will help you
flesh out your intentions, which in turn becomes the rudder that guides
you through the year. They help keep you growing and on track. They are
committed to your goals. They don’t do the work for you (nobody can), but they
help guide your energy.
No
matter how successful you become, you will always need coaching. Albert Pujol
is a very successful baseball player (now an Angel). Do you think he has a
coach? Josh Groban can sing circles around the rest of us. Do you think he has
a coach? Come to think of it, all pros have coaches! That’s why they ARE pros!
Successful people who are sharpening their skills seek out coaches. It’s about
who I am and what I want. A coach keeps me on track with what I value.
3.
You need
partners that assist you. You need helpers, coworkers, teammates,
and a support group of people who form your network. They are people who share
your commitment to a life mission. You were not meant to go through life
fulfilling your goals and objectives by yourself.
Benjamin
Franklin formed a support group long before it was ever popular. He called it, my
most ingenious friends group (I didn’t make that up). They met every
Friday night for 40 years. In his 80’s and 90’s he was still accomplishing
things, with his greatest inventions coming after the age of 70.
Thomas
Edison had a group he called, my mastermind alliance. Within a
six year period that group came up with over 300 patented inventions. They were
averaging one minor invention every six weeks and one major invention every six
months.
You
get the point. You might not invent the iPhone, but you will shock yourself
with what you can accomplish.
4.
You need friends
that support you. Yes, they DO provide emotional support! True friends
walk in when others walk out. They don’t abandon you. They stick with you in a
crisis. And they also provide intellectual stimulation. Do your closest friends
make you think or do they put you to sleep?
“A true friend is one who makes us do
what we can do.”
Emerson
They
stretch us, press us, envelop us, and put the pressure on us to grow. My point
is that you will never rise above the level of your closest friends.
“You are the average of the 5 people
you spend the most time with.”
-Jim Rohn
If
those 5 people average a 6 on a scale of 1-10, you will probably not rise above
a 6. Who are the empowering people in your life? Spend more time with
them.
Who
are the models inspiring you? Can you identify the coaches that are propelling
you? Who are the partners assisting you? Are your closest friends causing you
to grow or regress?
The
quality of your life will be in direct proportion to the types of relationships
you choose to build. So choose well.
How
do your relationships impact you? Your comments are valued.
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