Do You Believe in Yourself?

It can often be hard to believe in yourself, especially if you feel like you have nothing to offer or are unworthy of things. But you are worthy and you are capable. If you're having trouble seeing all the amazing things about you, then read the article below to start building confidence in yourself and get ready to show the world how great you really are!

 

·        Recognize your skills. Recognize the skills that you have and the good things about yourself. There are lots! You may not always recognize them but they are there. One way is to look for the things that you don't struggle with or to look for the things that people compliment you on (even if you aren't very good about accepting the compliment). When you look at the things you do well, you'll feel more comfortable doing other things too.

·        Meet goals. Set goals for yourself and meet those goals. Actually go out and do things. Just thinking about what you want to do will only make you feel worse about yourself for not even starting them. Once you do make a goal, work hard to achieve that goal. Keep in mind, however, that these should be reasonable goals. Even if you make small incremental steps toward your ultimate goal, you should acknowledge each level of accomplishment. Achieving a goal, however small, will build self-esteem.This creates feelings of empowerment.

·        Learn from failure. Instead of viewing your failures as failures, view them as learning opportunities. You did something wrong so that you know for sure it's wrong and now you'll have an easier time knowing what's right. Everything that goes wrong in your life is an opportunity to learn and move forward towards a better place, so embrace it.

·        Try, even when you feel like you can't or shouldn't. Sometimes we feel like we shouldn't do something new because we might do it wrong. This is a bad mindset. Instead, give yourself permission to try something, even if you might get it wrong. If you never try new things, you'll never be able to make progress. Stop fearing the unknown and start challenging yourself to learn more.

·        Talk to people who love you. If you're really having trouble seeing all the wonderful things about yourself, you can always talk to someone who loves you. Tell them that you're having a hard time and they will find a way to bring you a better outlook. Sometimes we have difficulty seeing the best things about ourselves, but the people that really love us will never struggle to see those things.

·        Take breaks when you need them. If a situation or a task is just too overwhelming, feel free to take a quick break to catch your breath and remind yourself that you can do this. Even if the break is just inside your head, it's okay to stop and acknowledge that you need a minute to build back your determination.

·        Do something you believe in. Another thing you can do to help yourself is to do something that you believe in. Do something that you know is incredibly important and that you know needs to be done. Whether it is for yourself or to help others, being forthright in your actions helps build self-confidence and drives your sense of purpose. Once you start putting your energy into things you are passionate about, your beliefs will align with your actions and you will feel more and more confident each day.

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Start Choosing the Best Environment for Success

Success in any area of life never happens in a complete vacuum. Often it is just as much dependent on an individual’s will-power and intelligence as it is on their environment and outside circumstances.

To find happiness and success, you therefore need to pay attention and take some control over the type of environments you are surrounding yourself in on a daily basis; even the strongest and brightest of minds will find it difficult to achieve their goals if they are in a completely wrong environment for them. This is because every aspect of your external life has some influence over your internal thoughts and behaviors, especially the people you surround yourself with on a daily basis, and the type of places where you spend most of your time.

Time to look at the people you surround yourself with…..

The first main aspect of our environment that influences our success is the people we surround ourselves with on a daily basis. 

For example, a recent study published in a 2013 issue of Psychological Science found that surrounding yourself with friends who are more self-disciplined can also help you become more self-disciplined. This is just one of many examples of how our social network can have an influence over our own behavior and goal-seeking.

It fits well with other research that shows if you hang around people who are obese and unhealthy, it’s more likely you will become obese and unhealthy. And if you hang around with people who are lazy and don’t study for class, it’s likely you’ll end up with similar grades as them too. More and more scientific evidence is beginning to show that we become a reflection of the types of people we hang out with the most. This social influence affects every area of our lives: at home, at work, at school, at a party, or wherever.

So take a moment to think about some of your own personal goals and values. Are there any people in your life who are currently holding you back from achieving them? Be honest. Instead of spending time with people who make you hate life and make you want to give up, spend time with people who make you love life and motivate you to improve yourself for the better. 

That to me is one of the most important characteristics in a healthy relationship. It’s also essential to achieving success. If you have the right people in your life, it’ll be easy to find that extra boost of support when you really need it.

Think about the places you spend your time at……

The second main aspect of our environment that influences our success is the places we spend most of our time at.

For example, one important factor that has shown to increase productivity and happiness is giving people some freedom to design their own workplace. Taking ownership over where you spend your time allows you to choose an environment that motivates and inspires you. A good environment for success should keep your senses stimulated and awake while you work on your goals, while not being too distracting. 

For example, one specific thing you could do is put plants or a fish tank in your office, gym, or workplace to surround yourself with nature more. There have been countless studies showing how exposing ourselves to nature can improve focus, minimize stress, and boost cognitive ability.

Another thing you can do is decorate your workspace with motivational posters and quotes. These can be great resources to have around the office when you need something to lift your mood. Find images that are visually appealing to you, with designs and colors that make you feel good and set the right tone for you and your goals.

Often when working for large organizations we can lose a sense of our personal identity. Your office is usually the one place you have some freedom to express yourself, so create a work environment that works for you – something that reflects some of your own values and interests, and something that motivates and inspires you.

Try changing your workspace around every few months or so to keep it fresh and interesting. On the surface it may not seem like a big deal, but remember this is the place you work at everyday, so it’s going to have an influence on your success and inspiration whether you realize it or not. You might as well make it as positive as possible.

It’s about choosing an environment that brings out the best in you……..

At the end of the day, you can’t meet your full potential for success unless you find an environment that brings out the very best in you. Try to become more aware of the people and places you interact with on a daily basis. Are they encouraging your success or discouraging it? How can you make some changes to your environment so that it better serves you and your goals?

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Think about what truly matters to you!

We all know deep down there are different things that drive us – hobbies that excite us, passions that we wish we had more time to explore, people we wish could spend more time with, business we would like to develop. I believe that identifying, focusing on, and spending time on what matters to us, is not simply a thought exercise. Focusing on and doing what truly matters to you, truly matters..........

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Create a Positive Mindset!

Become Aware of The Feedback In Your Life!

Our minds are a lot like a feedback loop.

We process information from our environment, we respond to it through our actions, and then we get new information back based on the effects of those actions. This cycle continues as we continue to adapt and change to new situations in our lives.

One key to happiness and success however we may define those terms, is paying attention to this constant feedback as much as possible.

When we do things that get positive feedback, we should continue to do those things in the future, because we know that they work and bring desirable results. And when we do something that gets negative feedback, we should change our course of action in hopes of getting different results.

However, some people try to ignore this feedback or they just aren’t good at being fully aware of all the feedback they get from their lives. They get stuck in their own ways, staying attached to old habits and old ways of thinking and believe those are their only options. Not because they actually worked or helped them live better lives but because that is all they know to do.

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." -Albert Einstein

The more you pay attention to the feedback in your life, the better you can adapt and change to your life in a healthy way.

We receive feedback in a variety of forms including but not limited to:

• The feedback we get from our actions. Does doing that thing bring you closer to your values and goals in life or further away?
• The feedback we get from people. Are your friends, family, coworkers, or whoever responding positively or negatively to what you do and say?
• The feedback we get from our bodies. Does eating that make you feel healthy or less healthy? Does doing that activity make you feel fit or less fit?
• The feedback we get from our emotions. Does doing that make you feel more emotionally stable or less emotionally stable?

Everything we experience can be viewed as a type of feedback. To make the most of this feedback we have to exercise both awareness and honesty on a daily basis. This is the beginning of knowing what needs to change in order to improve and grow.

The first step is to pay more attention to things we normally don’t whether it’s our emotions, habits, relationships, health, work, or whatever else it is that makes up the components of our lives.

Be a witness to your life to help build more awareness to your everyday thoughts, habits, and routines.

Once you learn to harness your awareness in one area it will become easier to apply that same focused awareness to all other aspects of your life. In doing so, you’ll become more attuned to the various forms of feedback you get every day.

Secondly, to make the most of your feedback you need to be honest with yourself as much as possible. If you always distort your feedback into something positive or negative and you don’t actually see what the feedback is truly communicating, then you won’t be able to respond to that feedback in the most effective way.

Be more aware of your actions and be honest about their effects because that is the beginning of knowing what is needed to improve all aspects of your life!

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Ready To Clean Up Your Life?

The Clean Sweep Program is a checklist of 100 items which when completed creates complete personal freedom. These 100 items are grouped in 4 areas of life with 25 in each group: Physical Environment, Well-being, Money and Relationships and are the cornerstone for a strong and healthy life. The program helps a person clean up, restore and polish virtually every aspect of his/her life. The program will take some time to complete as you work on the balance needed to live a happy, productive life. You can print this page out or work online as you continue to update your results.

Objective
The participant's goal is to get a score of 100 out of 100. The objective of the program is for the participant to get complete on about 100 possible incompletions in their life. Incompletions are those physical, emotional or mental items, which are in some way not resolved in the current moment. Incompletions of any kind drain energy. That is, they require energy to live with, given it takes work to keep us whole when there is something in the space. To have full integrity to be able to achieve your full potential is the object and the program guides you to get there in a natural way.

Promise
The Clean Sweep Program promises three things will happen as you increase your scores:

1. You will have more energy and vitality. There is nothing like a clean space, full communication and self-responsibility to give you more energy.
2. You will increase your scores just by being in the program. Once you go over the list of the 100 items, you'll find yourself handling some of these without even trying. Others take more work, but you will complete your way toward the score of 100.
3. You will gain perspective on who you are, where you are and where you are going. When incompletions are handled, one can see what is and has been around them, including one's self. You will see situations as they really are, you'll discern what is going on with you and around you and you'll react less and choose to be more proactive in your daily life. This higher perspective is essential in the process of designing one's life and it starts with the Clean Sweep Program.

Instructions
There are 4 steps to completing the Clean Sweep™ Program.

1. Answer each question. If true, check the box. Be rigorous; be a hard grader. If the statement is sometimes or usually true please DO NOT check the box until the statement is virtually always true for you. (No "credit" until it is really true!) If the statement does not apply to you, check the box. If the statement will never be true for you, check the box. (You get "credit" for it because it does not apply or will never happen.) And, you may change any statement to fit your situation better.
2. The number of True boxes for each of the 4 sections will be totaled automatically for you as you complete each of the 4 sections. Write down these totals on a separate sheet of paper and then add them up. You know where your baseline or starting point lies.
3. Keep playing until all boxes are filled in. You can do it! This process may take 30 or 360 days, but you can achieve a Clean Sweep! Use your coach Denise Dema to assist you. And check back once a year for maintenance.

Physical Environment My personal files, papers, and receipts are neatly filed away. My car is in excellent condition. (Doesn't need mechanical work, repairs, cleaning or replacing) My home is clean and tidy. (Vacuumed, wardrobes and drawers organized, desks and tables clear, furniture in good repair; windows clean). My appliances, machinery and equipment work well. (Fridge, toaster, lawn mower, water heater, etc.). My clothes are all ironed, clean and make me look good. (No creases, piles of washing, torn, out-of-date or ill-fitting clothes). My plants and animals are healthy. (Fed, watered, getting light and love). My bed/bedroom lets me have the best sleep possible. (Firm bed, light, air). I live in a house/condo that I love. I surround myself with beautiful things. I live in the geographical location of my choice. There is ample and healthy lighting around me. I consistently have adequate time, space and freedom in my life. Nothing in my environment harms me. I am not tolerating anything about my home or work environment. My work environment is productive and inspiring. (Synergistic, ample tools and resources; no undue pressure). My computer works very well and fully supports my efforts. My hair is the way I want it. I back up my hard drive at least monthly. I surround myself with music which makes my life more enjoyable. My bed is made daily. I don't injure myself, fall or bump into things. People feel comfortable in my home. I drink at least 2 liters of water a day. I have nothing around the house or in storage that I do not need. I am consistently early or easily on time. Your Physical Environment Total is :

Well-Being I rarely use caffeine. (Chocolate, coffee, colas, tea) less than 3 times per week, total. I rarely eat sugar. (Less than 3 times per week). I rarely watch television. (Less than 5 hours per week). I rarely drink alcohol. (Less than 2 drinks per week) My teeth and gums are healthy. (Have seen dentist in last 6 months). My cholesterol is at a healthy level. My blood pressure is at a healthy level. I have had a complete physical examination within the past 3 years. I do not smoke tobacco or other substances. I do not use illegal drugs or misuse prescribed medications. I have had a complete eye examination within the past two years.(Glaucoma check, vision test). My weight is within my ideal range. My nails are healthy and look good. I don't rush or use adrenaline to get the job done. I have a rewarding life beyond my work or profession. I have something to look forward to virtually every day. I have no habits which are unacceptable to me. I am aware of the physical or emotional problems or conditions I have, and I am now fully taking care of all of them. I consistently have evenings, weekends and holidays off and take at least four weeks of holiday each year. I have just the right amount of sleep. I use well-made sunglasses. I do not suffer. I laugh out loud every day. I walk or exercise at least three times per week. I hear well and protect myself from loud noises / concerts / music. Your Well-being Total is :

Money I currently save at least 10% of my income. I pay my bills on time. My income source/revenue base is stable and predictable. I know how much I must have to be minimally financially independent and I have a plan to get there. I have returned or made-good-on any money I borrowed. I have written agreements and am current with payments to individuals or companies to whom I owe money. I have 6 months' living expenses in an easily accessible account. I live on a weekly budget which allows me to save and not suffer. All my tax returns have been filed and all my taxes have been paid. I currently live well, within my means. I have excellent personal insurance. (Life, accident, disability, medical etc.). My assets (car, home, possessions, treasures) are well-insured. I have a financial plan for the next year. I have no legal clouds hanging over me. My will is up-to-date and accurate. Any parking tickets, alimony or child support are paid and current. My investments do not keep me awake at night. I know how much I am worth. I am on a career / professional / business track which is or will soon be financially and personally rewarding. My earnings are commensurate with the effort I put into my job. I have no "loose ends" at work. I am in relationship with people who can assist in my career/professional development. I rarely miss work due to illness. I am putting aside enough money each month to reach financial independence. My earnings outpace inflation, consistently. Your Money Total is :

Relationships I have told my parents, in the last 3 months, that I love them. I get along well with my sibling(s). I get along well with my coworkers/ clients. I get along well with my manager/staff. There is no one whom I would dread or feel uncomfortable "bumping into". (In the street, at an airport or party). I put people first and results second. I have let go of the relationships which drag me down or damage me. ("Let go" means to end, walk away from, declare complete, no longer be attached to). I have communicated or attempted to communicate with everyone whom I have hurt, injured or seriously upset, even if it wasn't fully my fault. I do not gossip or talk about others. I have a circle of friends/family who love and appreciate me for who I am, more than just what I do for them. I tell people how they can satisfy me. I am fully caught up with letters and calls. I always tell the truth, no matter what. I receive enough love from people around me to feel good. I have fully forgiven those people who have hurt/damaged me, intentional or not. I am a person of his/her word; people can count on me. I quickly correct miscommunications and misunderstandings when they do occur. I live life on my terms, not by the rules or preferences of others. I am complete with past loves or spouses. I am aware of my wants and needs and get them taken care of. I do not judge or criticize others. I do not "take personally" the things that people say to me. I have a best friend or soul-mate. I make requests rather than complain. I spend time with people who don't try to change me. Your Relationships Total is :

Scoring:Add your totals from the four sections. Initial scores for the first-time participant range, on average, between 30 - 70 points out of the 100 points possible. Most people who are "using" the program increase their scores between 2 and 6 points per month. Points are added more quickly at first, slowing down significantly after one has added 20 or so points. Major plateau areas are at 70-75, 85-90 and 95-100. Those last 5 or 10 are the ones which are most worth taking care of, given our egos are well entrenched among these incompletions. You want to take this program on with the intention of getting a 100.


Important Points:
This program is part of establishing a Strong Personal Foundation. With this strong base, one can build a vibrant and attractive future. But it requires an investment.

This program is a backdoor approach to personal growth, business success and happiness. Rather than chase goals or try to figure out one's life purpose, better to get the stuff out of the way so you can get the perspective you need to make better decisions and attract what you really want.

One of the goals is to stop having problems, handle the incompletions you have currently and maintain a clean space, forever, so you can create as you were designed to. The Clean Sweep Program is the first step in that process.

Isn't it time to invest in the most important thing in your life? YOU! Work with a Business and Life Management Coach with over 20 years’ experience empowering people to attain self-defined success in their personal and professional life. Contact me  to book a free session and start today!