Positive and negative
thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies: What we expect can often come
true.
If you start off
thinking you will mess up a task, the chances are that you will: You may not
try hard enough to succeed, you won't attract support from other people, and
you may not perceive any results as good enough. Positive thinking, on the
other hand, is often associated with positive actions and outcomes. You're drawn
to, and you focus on, the positive aspects of a situation. You have hope and
faith in yourself and others, and you work and invest hard to prove that your
optimism is warranted. You'll enthuse others, and they may well "pitch
in" to help you. This makes constructive outcomes all the more likely. When it comes down to it, positive, optimistic
people are happier and healthier, and enjoy more success than those who think
negatively. The key difference between them is how they think about and
interpret the events in their life.
So, how do you think
about your successes and failures? Do you think you have a predictable thinking
pattern?
The first step in
changing negative thinking is to become aware of it. For many of us, negative
thinking is a bad habit – and we may not even know we're doing it!
Consider these
examples of negative thought patterns: The guy on the subway who just made a
face is surely directing his behavior at you. When the receptionist doesn't
greet you in the morning, you must have done something to anger her. again! You
go straight to the coffee machine, because it's Monday morning and you just
know you'll be solving problems until lunchtime. When you finally get to your
desk, your assistant is waiting for you. "Oh no," you think.
"What has he done now? The first problem of the day.”
Imagine how it makes
you feel to constantly surround yourself with negativity. Then ask yourself if
this is the way you tend to think in your own life? Dr Martin Seligman,
who has been described as America's most influential psychologist, has done
extensive research on thought patterns. In particular, he looks at the impact
of an optimistic versus pessimistic outlook on life and success. He uses three
basic dimensions of Permanence, Pervasiveness and Personalization, with
optimistic people on one end of the scale and pessimistic people on the other.
Permanence
Believing that
something we are experiencing is either permanent or temporary. The pessimist
statement implies that you think bad times will carry on forever.
Pessimist: I lost my
job and I'll never find one as good again. No point even looking!
Optimist: I lost my
job. Thank goodness there are other opportunities I can explore!
Pervasiveness
Believing that
situational factors cause an effect or that the effect is evidence of more
universal factors at work. The pessimist
statement shows that you tend to think that if
you've experienced a problem in one place, you'll experience that problem
wherever you go.
Pessimist: I lost my
job. Companies are all the same; all they care about is money. I don't know why
I bother putting in any effort at all.
Optimist: I lost my
job. It's too bad our company has to reinvent itself to stay competitive.
Thankfully I learned some great transferable skills!
Personalization
Believing that
something about you influenced the outcome or that something external to you
caused it. The pessimist tends to blame himself for bad
things, rather than attributing the cause to more general factors.
Pessimist: I lost my
job. If I had been a decent employee they would have found a new job for me.
Optimist: I lost my
job. I gave it my all, however they just can't use my skill set right now.
Re-shape Your Thinking
The way you view what
happens around you can show whether you have a positive or negative pattern of
thinking when you become more aware of your thoughts - and the effect they have
on your life.
When you're more
aware of the way you think, you can take action to use positive situations to
your advantage, and re-shape the negative ones. The goal is to think
positively, regardless of the situation, and make a conscious effort to see
opportunities instead of obstacles.
So if we look at one
of the examples listed above, if you immediately think the receptionist is mad
at you because she didn't say hello, how rational is that? Now change that
thought to more rational outcomes like, she have been busy or distracted when
you walked by or did you say hello to her? Maybe she wasn't feeling well, or
she was in a negative mood herself. These are all more rational reasons for her
behavior than simply assuming that you did something wrong. Persistent negative thinking can cause mental
health problems, including depression. While these positive thinking techniques
have been shown to have a positive effect, they are for guidance only, and
readers should take the advice of suitably qualified health professionals if
they are experiencing persistent unhappiness.
Key Points
Becoming more
positive is always a good thing. The more aware you are of your thoughts, the
better you'll be able to change them to emphasize the positive. Positive thinking usually attracts positive
people, events, and outcomes. If you want to create an environment where you're
successful and satisfied, you'll need the power of positive thinking on your
side. You may not be aware of all of
your negative thoughts and the effect they have on your life, however, by
taking some time to understand your own thought patterns, you can challenge
those irrational, negative thoughts – and replace them with more positive, optimistic
and empowering messages.
“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world." - Buddha
There’s something inspiring about the start of a new year. It’s when you promise yourself you’ll eat better, exercise more and watch less TV. But when reality sets in, it can be difficult to break less-desirable habits and embrace newer, more constructive ones.
